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What Should I Say?
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Why I Wrote This Book
Read This First! How to Use This Book
Chapter One: Everyday Situations
Advice -
When Someone Asks for Your Advice
- Giving Unasked for Advice
- Asking for Advice
- If You Receive Unasked for Advice
Favors
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Offering a Favor
- How to say “No;” Turning Down a Request for a Favor
- Asking for a Favor
- Accepting a Favor
- Turning Down a Favor You’re Offered
Personal Beliefs and Lifestyle Choices- Expressing Yours
- Others’ Lifestyles
Religion and Politics
If Someone Insults Something Important to You
Gossip
- Should You Tell Someone She’s Being Gossiped About?
Losing a Job
- When Someone Loses His Job
- If You’ve Lost Your Job
Money Problems
- Offering Help to Someone Who is Having Money Problems
- If You are Having Money Problems
Spouse Bashing
Sexist/Racist/Bigoted Remarks or Jokes
Uncomfortable Events and When You are Shy
Chapter Two: Love, Marriage, and Children
Expressing Concern about a Spouse/Potential Spouse
Marriage Problems and Divorce- When Someone is Having Marriage Problems
- When Friends Divorce
- Holidays and Wedding Anniversaries During Marriage Problems or After Divorce
- If Your Marriage is in Trouble or You are Getting a Divorce
Fertility Problems
- When Someone is Having Problems
- Announcing a Pregnancy, or Baby Shower
- If You are Having Fertility Problems
- If You are Having Fertility Problems and Someone Else Becomes Pregnant
Adoption
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When Friends Choose to Adopt
- If Adoption Plans Fall Through
- When You’ve Adopted
Parents and Their Children
- Other Children and Your Child
- Following Your House Rules
- If a Child Won’t Follow the Rules
- If You are Uncomfortable with the Environment of Your Child’s Friend’s Home
Kids Behaving Badly- If Someone’s Kids are Behaving Badly
- If Someone Else’s Kids are Having Problems
- If Your Kid is in Trouble
Chapter Three: Difficult People
Inappropriate, Rude, Critical, or Obnoxious Questions or Comments
- Replies to Some of the Rudest Questions
The Person Who Talks and Talks and Talks and Talks . . .
The Drama Queen or King
A Person Who is Negative About Everything
If Someone is Always Critical of Others
The Person with a “Poor Me” Attitude
The Person Who Curses in Public
Someone Who is Always Experiencing a Crisis
When Someone Won’t Take Responsibility for His or Her Problems
Getting Along with Someone Whose Company You do not Enjoy
Chapter Four: Family
Your Own Family
- General Guidelines for Dealing with Dysfunctional Family Members
- If You Don’t Want to Stay at a Family Member’s Home
- If You Don’t Want Family Members to Stay at Your Home
- Limiting Contact or Cutting off Ties with a Family Member
- Explaining Your Actions to Other Family Members
- The Embarrassing Family Member
- If Someone Makes Sexual Comments or Advances
Your Spouse’s Family
A Friend’s Family
- When a Friend is Having Family Difficulties
- When a Friend Cuts Ties, or Limits Contact with, Family Members
- When a Friend’s Relative Needs More Care
- When Someone’s Relative is in a Long-Term Care Unit
Chapter Five: Death
When a Loved One has Died
In the First Hours and Days After a Loved One has Died- The Days Between the Death and the Funeral
- At the Funeral
- In the Weeks and Months After the Death
- When You are Grieving
When Someone is Dying
- To the Person Who is Dying
- To Someone Whose Loved One is Dying
Suicide
- If Someone Threatens Suicide
- When Someone Dies by Suicide
Miscarriage
Death of a Full-Term Baby, or Child
Anniversaries, Holidays, Birthdays, and Special Occasions after the Death of a Loved One
- When Someone is Facing a Significant Date after the Death of a Loved One
- When You are Facing a Significant Date Without a Loved One
Death of a Pet
Chapter Six: Illness, Injury, and Disability
Acute (Short) Illness or Injury
- To the Ill or Injured Person
- To the Spouse/Close Relatives
During a Lengthy Recovery, at Home or in the Hospital- To the Person Who is Ill or Injured
Chronic (Long-Term) Illness- When Someone is Diagnosed with a Chronic Illness
- Ongoing - Weeks and Months after the Diagnosis
- When a Child has a Chronic Illness
When Someone Has a Severe/Terminal Illness
Babies and Children With Special Needs or a Disability- When a Baby is Born with Special Needs or a Disability
- If Your Baby has Special Needs
- An Older Child with a Disability
Chapter Seven: Various Sticky, Tricky, Uncomfortable Situations
General Guidelines for Telling Someone Something They Don’t Want to Hear
Two Friends Have a Falling Out
If Someone Asks You for a Job Reference
If a Friend is in an Abusive Relationship
If a Friend has been Sexually Assaulted
When a Friend is Depressed
If You Suspect a Friend is Addicted
After a Friend or Acquaintance has Attempted Suicide
Unexpected Pregnancy- When a Friend’s Unmarried Child is Pregnant
- If a Friend is Unexpectedly Pregnant
Secrets- Revealing a Secret from Your Past
- When a Friend Shares a Secret
Invitations and Get-togethers
- When Someone Asks for an Invitation
- If Someone Wants to Invite Another Guest to Attend with Him
Asking Awkward Questions
Foot-in-Mouth Disease - When You Accidentally put Your Foot in Your Mouth
Is it Good or Bad News?
- When You Don’t Know if Someone’s News is Good or Bad
- If Someone Misinterprets Your News
Problems with Neighbors
Chapter Eight: Encouraging Words
When a Friend is Making a Big Decision
If a Family Member is Being Deployed
Disappointment After Working Hard for Something
Compliments- Giving Compliments
- Accepting a Compliment
Acknowledging a Difficult Decision
Acknowledgements
Appendix
Asking the Holy Spirit to Guide Your Words
Tone of Voice (Using Tone of Voice to Your Advantage)
Mastering the Art of Listening
10 Worst Things to Say in Any Situation
10 Best Things to Say When You Don’t Know What to Say
Index
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